I’m not someone who reads non-fiction books. I just can’t finish them.
I’m not someone who wears gold jewelry. It doesn’t look good on me.
I’m not someone who is good at following through on things. Never have been.
These are all statements I have believed about myself, told myself, told other people about myself over the years. All of these statements were totally true at the time I uttered them. But just because something is true doesn’t mean it’s helpful!
Earlier this year I bought a “self help” book. I own a lot of those books. I’m a therapist after all! This book had been recommended to me by a client and I immediately started recommending it to some of my other clients. The trick was I had never read it. I know! I know! That is not a good idea! But I trusted the client who told me about it, and I just wasn’t someone who could finish books like that. I had tried. I had read about four chapters of most of the books on my bookshelf at work. I just couldn’t get any further!
One day I recommend this book to yet another client. This time, however, she came back the next week and told me she hated it. What? What did she hate? We had an amazing conversation about the specific issue this book triggered in her, and it was actually really helpful in her healing process, but I finally decided I needed to read this book for myself.
So I bought it and started reading. And guess what? I loved it! It is taking me several weeks to finish it, and in the past that would have made me discouraged enough to quit, but not this time. It’s so good I just can’t quit reading it. Even if it takes me months! I am going to finish this book!
That got me thinking. How many times am I telling myself stories about me – stories about what I can and can’t accomplish in life – that are holding me back!
Our words are powerful, and most of us are well aware of the affects our words can have on those around us. But the words we use on ourselves are just as powerful! They have the power to feed our soul or destroy it. They have the power to push us forward or hold us back!
I am someone who reads books that help her grow.
I am someone who can do hard things and actually finish them!
I am actually someone who wears gold jewelry once in a while now.
What stories are you telling yourself that hold you back; that hurt your heart. Don’t be your biggest critic! Be your biggest advocate! You don’t even have to believe them at first. That’s the amazing power of words. They sink into our hearts the more we use them and have the power to change us from the inside out!